A guide for couples · PDF, in English
The Fair Household
You are both tired. You are both right. Here is a way through that does not need a winner.
A practical guide for couples who want to stop arguing about who does more and start working as a team. One evening to read, one month to put in place.
One-time payment. Instant PDF download. Add The Fair Household Workbook for €9.99 at checkout.
- Price
- €34.99, one-time
- Length
- About 105 pages
- Inside
- 12 chapters, 12 exercises
- Format
- PDF, US Letter
Try it first, free
Read the opening of chapter 1 (8 pages) and see a worksheet filled in by hand, so you know exactly what you are buying. The samples carry a watermark and are for reading on screen; the book and workbook are clean and printable. No sign-up, no e-mail address needed.
The problem
It is 9:47 p.m. The laundry basket is full, the dishwasher needs emptying, and your partner has just opened a laptop. You feel it is all on you again. Across the room, your partner feels just as unseen. You are both right, because each of you sees your own effort from the inside and the other's only from the outside.
What wears a household down is mostly work nobody sees: noticing that something is running out, deciding when, remembering for everyone. Splitting the visible chores fifty-fifty leaves that layer exactly where it was. So one of you keeps carrying it, quietly, and the other keeps wondering why the evening ends in an argument.
This book gives that hidden work a name, a picture and an owner, so you can talk about it as two people on the same side of the table, not as two people keeping score.
What can change
- Before
- One of you holds the whole list in your head, even on the sofa, even on holiday. Reminders sound like nagging. Thank-yous sound like accusations.
- After
- Picture a Sunday evening: twenty minutes at the table, one page between you, a timer. The week has names and dates on it. Many couples find that a conversation like this feels very different from the one in the hallway at 8:10 on a Tuesday.
- The bridge
- Twelve short chapters, each built around one ordinary evening and one tool you can use the same day.
What you get in the book
- The three phases of every task: notice, decide, do. You see which part of a job each of you really carries, and why washing the dishes and planning a holiday do not weigh the same.
- A paper Load Map that separates physical and mental load. You can talk about a picture instead of two feelings.
- The Weekly 20, a twenty-minute meeting with an agenda and a timer, plus sentences for inviting a partner who is not keen. Hard topics get a calm hour instead of the middle of a busy morning.
- Kids as teammates: tasks by age, and how to use rewards without bribes.
- Plan B for illness and bad months, and a fifteen-minute restart when the system slips, because it will.
- 12 exercises to do together, plus notebook pages and challenges in every chapter, several adapted from published research (expressive writing, conflict reappraisal, if-then planning, the stress-reducing conversation).
- A one-page "1 + 1" for your partner in every chapter, so the person with no time for a book can still join in.
- A 30-day plan that puts the exercises in order, and every tool (checklists, cards, scripts) in the chapter where you need it.
- A code for 3 months of Family Fair Play Premium in the app, sent with your download. One-time use, optional.
Book or workbook?
The exercises appear in both. The workbook is the doing, on loose pages you can print. The Fair Household is the why: the scenes, the research and the reasoning, in 12 short chapters, with the exercises placed right where they belong.
Use the workbook alone, or add it to the book for €9.99 at checkout.
| Feature | The book |
 The workbook |
|---|---|---|
| What it is | The reasoning and the method: 12 short chapters, each built around one ordinary evening. | The practice half of the book, for couples who would rather do than read. It works on its own. |
| 12 exercises to do together | Yes, in the chapter where each one belongs | Yes, each practice on its own page, so you can print one page or the whole thing |
| Notebook pages and challenges | In every chapter | 10 notebook pages for you alone; 10 seven-day challenges with a log |
| Tools and worksheets | Checklists, cards and scripts in the chapter where you need them | 16 printable worksheets: the One-Evening Test, Switchboard Map, Standards Card, Load Map, Handover Card, Weekly 20 agenda, Off-Duty Block, Plan B Page and more |
| 30-day plan | Puts the exercises in order | Puts it all in order, with a one-page tracker |
| Premium code | 3 months of Family Fair Play Premium, single use, optional | Comes with the book only |
| Format | PDF, US Letter, about 105 pages | PDF made for printing on US Letter (prints on A4 with a small scale-down); it is not a fillable form |
| Price | €34.99 | €19.99 on its own, or €9.99 added to the book at checkout |
Several exercises are adapted from published psychological research (expressive writing, conflict reappraisal, if-then planning, the stress-reducing conversation); the page says which.
Who it is for
Two adults who share a household, usually with children, and who want less resentment and more teamwork. It works on paper; no app is required.
Who it is not for
It is not therapy and it does not diagnose anyone. If one of you is struggling in a way that is severe or lasting, please speak to a qualified professional first.
About the method
The book comes from the team behind Family Fair Play, an app for sharing household work fairly. The method in the book stands on its own: everything can be done with a pen and a fridge door. The app is mentioned where it can keep the map for you, never as a requirement.
Order
The Fair Household
€34.99
- The book: PDF, US Letter, about 105 pages
- A code for 3 months of Family Fair Play Premium comes with the book
- Add The Fair Household Workbook for €9.99 at checkout
The Fair Household Workbook
€19.99
- Workbook alone, no book needed
- Print as often as you like for your own household
- Bought together with the book, the workbook is €9.99
Want both? Buy the book and add the workbook at checkout: €34.99 + €9.99.
Both are digital downloads that are delivered immediately. At checkout you confirm that you want immediate delivery and that you give up the 14-day right of withdrawal; see section 6 of the Terms of Use. Payment is processed by Stripe.
Questions
The short answers are here. For anything else, write to us.
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They do not need to. Each chapter ends with one page written for them, which takes two minutes.
No. The book is about two partners, whoever carries more. Roles in the examples rotate on purpose.
No. Every tool works on paper, in the book and in the workbook.
Where the book relies on a study, it names the study in the text. The exercises adapted from research say so. The rest is practical experience, presented as such.
No. Every section of the workbook explains its idea first.
The book and the workbook are digital downloads that become available the moment you pay. At checkout you confirm that you want them delivered immediately and that you give up the 14-day right of withdrawal. If the file does not arrive or is damaged, write to us at support@familyfairplay.com and we will fix it.
With the book you get a single-use code for 3 months of Family Fair Play Premium, for the monthly plan. After the three months the plan renews at the regular monthly price unless you cancel. The code has no cash value, and the app is optional.
The PDF is made for printing. It is not a fillable form. It is set in US Letter and prints on A4 with a small scale-down.