Who really carries more at home?
A five-minute mental load test that counts the invisible half too — the noticing, the deciding, the remembering.
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What this mental load test measures
A fair split is not an equal count of tasks. This test measures two things at once: how long each task takes, and the mental load behind it — noticing it needs doing, deciding when, and remembering it every week. You answer about your own household and get a load profile for both partners. No sign-up, no e-mail.
The five results and what they mean
The test places your household in one of five states. It is not a grade and it does not label a person — it names a situation you can move on from.
A team in sync
Your household runs like a team — the load is shared and you notice each other's effort. That is not a given; most families take years to get there. Watch out in periods when the work piles up at once — that is when the balance quietly breaks.
Small cracks
You manage well overall, but a few things quietly grate — someone carries a bit more of the invisible work. It doesn't hurt yet. Resentment isn't built in one evening though, it's built by repetition; it pays to name it before it settles in.
Tipping scales
The load is tipping to one side and it already shows — in moods and in conversations. It's usually not about laziness: one of you keeps the overview and the other waits to be told. Until you agree who owns which area, you'll keep coming back to the same argument.
One engine
One of you is carrying far more — especially the invisible, mental part nobody sees and that can never be “finished”. It wears down the person and the relationship alike. Talking about it usually stalls on the claim that it can't be measured — which is exactly why measuring is the place to start.
Solo shift
This isn't about the dishes anymore. It's about exhaustion and about feeling alone in it — and that feeling is usually not an exaggeration. None of this is your failure: nobody carries a household at this scale alone for long. The first step isn't doing more, it's making visible what you already do.
How long does the quiz take?
About five minutes. There is no account and no e-mail — the result is worked out in your browser and shown straight away.
What is the mental load?
The invisible half of housework: noticing a task exists, deciding when and how it gets done, and carrying the deadline in your head. Two people can tick off the same number of tasks and still carry very different mental loads.
Is a 50/50 split the goal?
No. Households differ in working hours, health and life stage. The goal is a split both partners recognise as fair, which is why the quiz gives you a profile rather than a verdict.
Is the mental load test meant for couples?
Yes. It shows the most when each of you answers separately — you both answer the same questions about the same household, and it is the comparison that reveals where you see the load differently. On your own you still get your own picture, just without the second view.
What do I get at the end?
A score for how unevenly things are split at your place and a load profile by area — physical time and mental load counted separately — with a first concrete step for each area. All of it straight away, no e-mail.
Is the mental load test free?
Yes. The test and the whole result — score, level, breakdown by area and first steps — come with no account, no e-mail and no payment. The e-mail is optional: we send a copy of your result there, plus a workbook sheet on how to raise it with your partner. Nothing unlocks for money.
Does the test work for parents — with children or a pet?
Yes, the test branches. At the start we ask whether you have children and a pet, and depending on your answer it adds questions about care and about who plans it. Without children and without a pet the test is shorter.
Does the test say who does more at home?
It shows the split, not a verdict. We calculate the shares only from the questions where you said who actually does that work, so it reflects your view. The real answer comes from your partner's test: both numbers unlock at once and you see where your views differ.
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